As we reach the age to finish our work life, the past passes by.
Among them, I always feel that efforts to resolve misunderstandings among people are useless.
This is because if you do not have an objective view that you may feel unfair but that it is not unfair in the eyes of others, you will always suffer from people and get tired.
Misunderstandings and explanations
I think it's a misunderstanding, but others keep trying to explain things that are not misunderstandings because they feel unfair.
If you don't admit this, you'll be tired. Because you think that all bad things are misunderstandings, you will not reflect on yourself, and you will think that you are right and become a stubborn person. Therefore, it is wise to take a direction toward trying to do better to the other person rather than trying to resolve the misunderstanding. If you think it's a misunderstanding, it's inevitable. However, things are always going to get twisted if you rush to resolve the misunderstanding because of the injustice.
How to handle misunderstandings
1. Reflection and Action
If you think it's a misunderstanding, you'll try to explain it, but the explanation sounds completely incomprehensible to the other person. This is because the state of misunderstanding is already hurt and defensive thoughts come to mind first. So, when you try to clear up a misunderstanding, you get more twisted.
People like to claim that they are good people and want to prove it, so when they are misunderstood, they waste time trying to explain it. However, this effort to resolve misunderstandings rather worsens the relationship, adds wounds, and claims that it is a misunderstanding, but in fact, misunderstandings even lead to deeper behavior. This is because people become emotionally emotional without knowing the embarrassment when they think it is unfair.
If you think that the big problem is misunderstanding, you will not reflect on yourself and only accumulate injustice. But most misunderstandings are something I should reflect on. Because we cannot admit this, we add misunderstandings to the misunderstanding and the situation continues to deteriorate. "I told you to misunderstand, why don't you believe me?" deepens the emotional gap.
2. Let's let him die of misunderstanding.
If you're being misunderstood, let's just "misunderstand and let them die." Even if he is making my remarks, let's leave it alone because if it's not true, it will be revealed someday. You have to have that confidence. So it's okay to leave it to die of misunderstanding.
The reason for saying this is that even if you have suffered too much injustice, you should not throw everything because of it.
I even saw people who could not distinguish between the other and tried to explain to villains who intentionally bullied people in order to resolve misunderstandings. Even at this time, I think it is a real revenge to let people like "Let's just leave them to die after misunderstanding." This is because clearing up the misunderstanding doesn't mean he'll be nice.
Therefore, it is better to set the scope of resolving misunderstandings in advance.
What I mean is to judge first whether the other person is malicious and, if it is not malicious, try to resolve the misunderstanding.
If you try to do so and it is not resolved, there will be evidence that the other person was malicious, so it is meaningless to try to resolve the misunderstanding again. So when you live a wise life, you should not pass anything by.
3. Get rid of your greed. Not everyone should like me.
Sometimes even people see people who want to lead others' feelings. In other words, everyone should like me, but if one person's response is not good, they can't stand it and waste their energy on it. So, if you get misunderstood, you will see a bad-tempered owner who has to solve it to solve his job.
At work, I prefer people who are good at work to people who are good at work. The reason is that one person who cannot work at work often makes other people's work more or more difficult. This is because if the person next to us is too busy with each other and cannot work, it will have an effect. That's why I don't like to play with emotions.
Emotional fights or emotional issues are probably common in a workplace where work is free. In some cases, employees who are busy talking to resolve this misunderstanding leave their work behind. It is a solution that makes things difficult and emotions get worse. It's like the company is paying by that time because it has to process the appraisal during the working hours.
You have to work only during business hours. Otherwise, there is not enough time to work and it is obvious that things will not go well.
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