The expression "misunderstand and die" comes intensely. This is because it contains a deep realization of the numerous misunderstandings experienced in work life and the resulting emotional exhaustion. We often waste our energy trying to clear up the misunderstanding, obsessed with the desire to prove that we are good people. But sometimes the effort makes things worse and destroys relationships.
Why do I take it for granted, because I have an unfair misunderstanding?
The biggest reason why they want to resolve misunderstandings is that they think they are unfair. But what I consider a "misunderstanding" may be a "natural result" for others. Our thoughts and actions are bound to be interpreted differently depending on our experiences and perspectives. Even if I do it in good faith, it can hurt the other person. If you fail to acknowledge this gap and insist that "I have no misunderstanding, I am a good person," you will eventually become stubborn without reflection.
This is why efforts to resolve misunderstandings are futile. The other person is already hurt and defensive, but even if I try to explain my injustice to them, it only sounds like an excuse. Eventually, only the emotional bone deepens, saying, "Why don't you believe me?"
a wise attitude toward misunderstandings
So, how should we deal with the misunderstanding? Rather than trying to explain it recklessly, it is better to think about the following three ways.
1. Use it as an opportunity to reflect on myself through misunderstanding
Most misunderstandings can be a sign that I have something to reflect on. My casual words and actions may have hurt someone. When a misunderstanding occurs, rather than bluntly shouting "Misunderstanding!" 'Did I do anything wrong? You have to look back on yourself. If this process is omitted, only injustice builds up and the situation continues to deteriorate. Rather than putting energy into resolving misunderstandings, it is more important to acknowledge my mistakes and try to change my behavior.
2. For malicious people, "misunderstand and die."
There is no need to explain all the misunderstandings. This is especially true for malicious people. They are not interested in your explanation, but rather they are more likely to attack your weakness. For such a person, it is wise to just leave them alone, saying, 'Misunderstand and die.' The truth will come out someday. If you fight against their malice because of injustice, only your precious time and energy are wasted.
3. Not everyone needs to like me
We must abandon the desire to be recognized and loved by everyone. This is especially true at work. For co-workers, "good people" are often more valuable than "good people." It is ultimately a loss for both the company and yourself to devote your energy to emotional fighting during business hours. Leaving work behind to resolve misunderstandings can be seen as an unprofessional attitude. Your energy should be used to improve your work skills and prove your worth.
Don't let misunderstandings dominate your life.
Misunderstandings make our lives difficult, but changing our attitude towards misunderstandings can make life much more serene. Instead of a vain effort to resolve misunderstandings, it is wise to reflect on one's actions, distance oneself from malicious people, and abandon the desire to be recognized by all. The true self is not explained in words, but is demonstrated by steady action and performance. Instead of wasting your energy, you should focus on enriching your life.